“Empathy Don’ts” (Under the Juniper Tree S14E5)

October 21, 2021

While we are on the discussion of empathy, we need to discuss some thing we should not do.
1. As I mention these things, it should be noted I do not think those who do these things mean to be malicious.
Never start a statement with “At least…”
1. Example: Person’s spouse dies.
2. When we say, “At least…” it is as if we are saying, “Do you really have the right to complain?” – It minimizes the problem.
3. We sound bit like Hannah’s husband (1 Sam. 1:8).
Do Not Offer a Solution
1. In many instances, people just want a sounding board.
2. If you want to offer a solution, ask first.
3. “Do you want consolation or a solution?”
Do Not Rush Them to Make Their Point
1. Let the person take their time going over what happened.
2. I know we might like the Cliff Notes version better but empathy gives time.