Friday, October 17, 2014
“Guidelines for Husbands and Wives”
Ephesians 5 Chart:
Today is October 17, 2014, and you’re listening to The New You, the daily broadcast for people who have been made new by the blood of Christ. Here is today’s Scripture:
This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband (Eph. 5:32-33).
This week, The New You has centered around Ephesians 5:22-33. We have noticed that what is discussed in this text is a picture of the way that marriage is supposed to be. The reason why we can say that so definitely is because this section of Ephesians five is actually about the relationship between Christ and the church (as I just read from Ephesians 5:32). From that relationship, a series of parallels are made to discuss the relationship between husbands and wives.
It is so important that you and I identify ourselves in this picture of a great marriage. As we think about our emphasis on domestic violence this month at The Light Network, I am reminded that abiding by the commands in Ephesians five will prevent my heart from being selfish and, thus, potentially becoming abusive.
So, today, we’re going to do something a little different from our normal format. I’m going to walk through Ephesians 5:22-33 and identify each time something is said to husbands or wives. As we go through the text, we’re interested in three questions: Who is this directed to? What are they to do? How are they to do it?
Here’s the breakdown of Ephesians 5:22-33.
Ephesians 5:22 says that wives (there’s the “who”) are to submit (“what”) to their husbands. How are they to do this? “As to the Lord” (Eph. 5:22). Submit as though you were submitting to Christ.
Next, look at Ephesians 5:23. The husband (“who”) is to be the head of the wife (there’s the “what”). How does he do this? “As Christ is the head of the church.”
Third, wives are addressed in Ephesians 5:24, so there’s our “who.” What are they to do? They are to be subject to their own husbands. How? “Just as the church is subject to Christ.”
Next, husbands are addressed in Ephesians 5:25. What are they to do? “Love your wives.” How? “Just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.”
Fifth, we turn to Ephesians 5:28. Who is addressed? Husbands. What are they to do? It says that they “ought to love their own wives.” How? “As their own bodies.” Then, the parallel is made in verse twenty nine to Christ: “… just as the Lord does the church.”
Sixth, from Ephesians 5:33, we see the “who” – husbands. What are they to do? “Love his own wife.” How? The text points to the context as it says, “so love his own wife.” In other words, they are to love their wives as Christ loves the church (as we see from Eph. 5:32). Further, the husband is to love his wife “as himself” (Eph. 5:33).
Finally, wives are addressed at the end of Ephesians 5:33. “Let the wife see that she respects her husband.” So what is she to do? She is to respect her husband.
Let’s wrap it up: It’s interesting to me that the husband’s headship is addressed only once in these admonitions. It is further interesting that the husband is admonished three times to love her (Eph. 5:25, 28, 33). Also, it is interesting that the wife’s submission is addressed twice (Eph. 5:22, 24), and the respect that she will have for her godly husband is mentioned there at the end of verse thirty three.
May we take this pattern and apply it to ourselves. Resist the temptation to point the finger at your spouse, surfacing all of the ways that they do it wrong. No, don’t do that. Instead, take Ephesians 5:22-33 introspectively. “Examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith” (2 Cor. 13:5).
Further, use this pattern to prevent domestic violence and abuse in your marriage. Be sure that you remember that loving, nourishing, cherishing relationship that Christ has for His bride, the church.
Thank God for your marriage. Glorify God in your marriage.
If you’re interested a visual representation of this data that I presented from Ephesians 5:22-33, I have a chart with each verse, accompanied by the appropriate who, what, and how for husbands and wives. Check it out at thelightnetwork.tv/tny116.
Memory Verse: If you’ve been with us every day this week, then you probably know Psalm 34:18 by now. This one is an easy one to memorize, as it is only two lines! Let’s review it one more time together:
The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart,
And saves such as have a contrite spirit (Psa. 34:18).
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